RELATIONSHIP : Did I Marry The Right Person ?

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Stress

got it from alice's blog..

To all stressful friends
A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management.

He raised a glass of water and asked the audience,

"How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"

The students answers ranged from 20g to 500gm.

"It does not matter on the absolute weight.

It depends on how long you hold it.

If I hold it for a minute. It is Ok.

If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance.

It is the exact same weight but the longer I hold it,

the heavier it becomes."

"If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,

we will not be able to carry on as the burden becoming

increasingly heavier.

What you have to do is to put the glass down,

rest for a while before holding it up again."

We have to put down the burden periodically,

so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight,

put the burden of work down.

Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders,

let it down for a moment if you can.

Pick it up again later when you have rested.

Rest and relax. Life is short.

am i a greenhouse floret?

am i a greenhouse floret?
this question keep turning in my mind these few day...even few weeks...

i can't manage the stress level from my new job..i dont know how to manage it..i did so many things to it..i did called frens to tok on...i did went gym to exercise..i juz cant manage to handle it..:(

i never been facing this level of stress..isit mean i failed to manage my stress?!!!!!

think back! my first job...even m stress @ work...but i can just leave it in the office when i finish work..or even i just go hang out with frenz...i juz get to handle it. why dis time no....??!!!

LRT

Today i work half day,cabut @ 6pm sharp(half day??hello..its already 6pm!! working hours is from 9am-6pm. but dis is UF culture...whoever cabut earlier den my art director..dat will call half day...sweat~!)..
rush down to kl sentral by taking LRT...from Tmn Bahagia - KL Sentral to do sth which related to my future..hahahaha!!! sound serious..shuhhhh...:p

This not my first time taking LRT....from Tmn Bahagia- KL Sentral(if m not mistaken, there shud haf 8 stop)station by station...seeing people rushing up and down to d lrt...i feel m so relaxing...keke..coz like got someone fetching me....the feeling kind a relax from my busy driving life...:)

放手不代表承认失败，放手只是为自己再找更美好的路走!

当你遇到一件事，已无法解决，甚至是已经影响到你的生活，心情时，何不停下脚步，暂时得想一想是否有转寰的空间。或许换种方法，换条路走，诗情便会简单点。
但，通常在那一刻，我们并来不及想到这些，只是一昧的在原地踏步，绕圈，让自己一直的陷在痛苦的深渊中。
生命中总有挫折，那不是尽头，只是在提醒你：该转弯了！
放手不代表承认失败，放手只是为自己再找条更美的路走！

请记得：

不是路已走到尽头，而是该转弯了！

人生有许多出口。

只不过有些路的确不好走；只不过它不是原先设想的结果;只不过我们经常执意碰壁，不肯转身，回头;只不过因为内心实在不愿面对现实。。所以，赖着不走。

人生，不管走到什么绝境，总有许多个出口，你可以在理性分析之后，做出选择。就算别无选择，也是一种选择。只要你愿意积极面对，然后对那个选择负起着责任，总有一天，会从这个出口，找到属于自己的幸福。

做人嘛，真的不该要求太多。待人嘛，标准更不该订的抬高。长长，我们总是看见事情的某一个角度罢了，坏的一面也须先露了出来，但我们看看好的一面又有何妨呢？可能坏的那一面是你能接受的，而好的一面是你过去所寻找的。

有些事与物可能有着普通的外表，但里边藏着的也许是好的馅儿，所以我们不如先尝尝，再来作定断也不迟，总比错过而后悔来的强。

人生，最可喜的事莫过于轻视现在所能拥有的，一直要等错过以后，才发现拥有的当时多么的痴傻。

[ 失去] 的本身，并不真得那么可惜，可惜的事，[拥有]的时候，没有认真对待。

人的不快乐往往在于不知道珍爱自己有的，却去羡慕别人有的

人的失败却又常常源于不懂得开发自己有的，却去妒嫉别人有的

别等到失去了，才知道自己要的是什么
别等到失去了，才懂得自己拥有是什么

Brek "O" Day

brek "O" day - breakfast set from coffee bean...our fav (kat,me,sum & fan) on sat morning, after 9am ray's pump @ ff, MJH.
Either coffee bean, mont kiara...or the cafe outside ff, MJH.....extra sausage, plsss....
after 1+ hours of 吹水....we'll get ready for 11:45am combat...den mayb rpm d following...?? but, 8 of 10...we juz go shower and wait for him finish the class...and we go for late lunch...and cont 吹水....daz our saturday...relax huh??!!!

today went for brunch with kat...remind me of those day....but now only left me n kat...summo after that went with her to d eneos...bought her household stuff...garden stuff (she became a "si lai" liao :p)...

aiyuh!!! damn bored la...pls pls pls....pls dont ask me go such shopping again....keke....

News for Swarovski Fans

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday to you..who borned @ 14041978....

ARIES MAN

He always let other people walk in front of him, but he will get there
first. He is a very careful guy and small obstacles won't make him fall
easily even he thinks life is a very serious matter. He is as romantic as
any other Zodiac. He could look gentle, but inside he is as strong as steel.
Once he determine to do something, he is serious about doing it well. He
will keep any pressure or insult deep down inside without showing emotion.
You will never see his emotion of burden or disappointment and always wonder
what he thinks or feels. He will well kept his feeling.

You will never see a guy in this Zodiac involving in other people business.
He always concern with his own business. Sometimes he can be talkative, but
he will never give anyone advice if he has not been asked. If you ask for
advice, he will certainly give you one. He respects elderly and senior, so
you will see he is the type who visit his parents steadily or often.

He is a slightly shy but also a stubborn person. He will find many ways to
make you happy when you are with him, till you realize he is the important
person for you. Once he is in the "Power Position", he will use his power
gently. He is a good leader and "Gentleness" is one of his effective method
for exploiting his power. It is although he is borne to be a leader. He
never hide his ambition, and he is a workaholic. he will not take any
position that he has no control. He will work very hard to reach his goal
and satisfaction.

Compliment from his boss or superior are never enough for him, he want his
deserved reward. His deep insecurity make him reach and collecting valuable
things, and this you may think he is stingy. Actually he could easily
spending money to buy things, traveling or pay for things that makes him
happy and he think necessary for his need. He care what other people think
of him and want to get good comments or compliments.

Outside he looks like stone and steel, but inside he is a fragile person. He
will hide and cover up weak emotion and his sadness in order...

Dog Colouring

B4 colouring


Step 1 : Apply colour on its tail

Step 2 : Wrap with aluminium foil

Step 3 : Same apply on Ears, wait for 15 mins

Step 4 : Yeah!! leng lui...

Red Box Plus , The Pavillion

red box plus..果然不同凡响...装修靓不得已，收费当然也和其他的redbox不一样啦！
lunch buffet(rm25++ for weekends)...11am - - 2:59pm 但系无知点解竟然俾我地唱到4:30pm哦.....足足唱咗5粒钟...今次还不够????

here u go...kit@222

my blog finally created...
was thinking to create for so long...but tot of nothing much to write...
end up still....summie...yup! i created my blog...